Wait ,I was thinking of his brother Dave ,but my husband knows Kent from yrs ago working at assemblies when they were young .
Good thing he came by when he did !
troubled mind
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A true hero who just happens to be an ex-JW atheist!
by JimmyPage in.
http://www.illinoishomepage.net/story/family-of-teen-accident-victim-searches-for-good-samaritan/d/story/lpavdbwgvuguebr8zo6ypw?fb_action_ids=10153492532150088&fb_action_types=og.likes&fb_ref=.uor3meitu4g.like&fb_source=other_multiline&action_object_map=%7b%2210153492532150088%22%3a1392564760985216%7d&action_type_map=%7b%2210153492532150088%22%3a%22og.likes%22%7d&action_ref_map=%7b%2210153492532150088%22%3a%22.uor3meitu4g.like%22%7d.
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A true hero who just happens to be an ex-JW atheist!
by JimmyPage in.
http://www.illinoishomepage.net/story/family-of-teen-accident-victim-searches-for-good-samaritan/d/story/lpavdbwgvuguebr8zo6ypw?fb_action_ids=10153492532150088&fb_action_types=og.likes&fb_ref=.uor3meitu4g.like&fb_source=other_multiline&action_object_map=%7b%2210153492532150088%22%3a1392564760985216%7d&action_type_map=%7b%2210153492532150088%22%3a%22og.likes%22%7d&action_ref_map=%7b%2210153492532150088%22%3a%22.uor3meitu4g.like%22%7d.
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troubled mind
Interesting , I know him too ! So Jimmy ,do you also know me ?
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A very dear life long friend died
by KariOtt inhe died a little over 7 months ago.
his liver failed and didn't get the transplant we all were hoping for.
1 of his daughters just latched on to me.
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troubled mind
This could be an excellent chance for you to help this young woman learn how to properly deal with people. She IS a teenager don't expect her to act as an adult . She is going through a terrible time in her life ,my goodness just lost her Dad and knows her Mom has very limited time .... Please be a stable adult in her life ,but also have her understand there must be boundaries . Be kind .
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Did you suffer humiliating childhood experiences as a JW?
by yadda yadda 2 inin john cedar's (jwsurvey.org) latest excellent article on his blog about a us teacher that got reprimanded for trying to force a jw boy to salute the american flag, he relates a similar childhood experience where he was terribly humiliated at school in view of his classmates.. this reminded me of a similar humiliating experience i suffered at school, when i was 11 years old.
during our school's end of year 'prom night' (not actually called that in the country i live) which was in the style of a disco night, my unbalanced jw mother came to pick me up early and stormed right into the hall and grabbed my arm and pulled me out in front of all my friends right in the middle of the dancing.
on the way out she gave the teachers a lecture about the music being far too loud and how unwholesome the whole thing was for children of my age.
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troubled mind
Oh man way too many humiliating experiences to pick from !
I hated my childhood .It is so sad when I look back how everything that could have been a good memory was ruined . For example I came home from kindergarten wanting too go trick or treating ,and my non- witness Dad told my Mom to get me dressed and let me go . She took me to the bathroom ,and slapped me across the face ,then told me to never 'do that to her again in front of my Father ' ! Then she dressed me up like a ballerina and made my brothers take me out .
At school it was a whole different kind of humiliation ...Being set out in the hallway ,desk and all ,during a birthday or holiday celebration ,and having other teachers walk by tsk..tsking you asking what bad behavior you had done to merit sitting out in the hall .
I remember the constant pull of guilt feelings . My regular teacher knew I didn't salute the flag or say the pledge of allegence ,but when a sub came I would pretend to say it because I was afraid . Sometimes teachers would save birthday treats for me and say they were just regular snacks ,and I would feel guilty taking them anyways .
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Since leaving the truth, do you celebrate holidays, and does your participation in such bring you happiness?
by Stand for Pure Worship ini ask this respectfully, and do so after watching a favorite show of mine's season opener which had a new years storyline.
hollywood tends to make movies and television show episodes centered around holiday themes appear warm and blissful.
while i'm thankful to have never participated in such holidays, i can't deny my curiosity about ex-jws that do celebrate.
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Yes StandsForTrueWorship , I have celebrated all holidays since leaving the Jw form of religion .
I was born and raised as a JW in a divided home ,my Dad was not a Witness ,but allowed my Mother to choose religion for us children . When we were small our Grandparents sent us cards with money ,and a couple of times we got actual wrapped gifts .That didn't happen much though . When we moved closer to my Grandparents we had wonderful holiday dinners at their home .I cherished those memories of visiting relatives ,great food cooking ,adults playing cards as cousins played ...
I left at age 44 and finally all my adult children have left too . We began slowly celebrating and now we are in full swing ,and I can say YES we enjoy it ! None of us practice any type of religion ,but we enjoy the sights and sounds of Christmas . My husband does a huge light and music program in our yard for Halloween and Christmas for the sheer joy of just doing it . He loves a challenge of programming everything into the computer and having all his hard work being enjoyed by neighbors and friends . We have people all over town sending him Thank You cards for doing this at the holidays . We have people tell us how much their little kids are so excited to come by our house at night to see the shows . We find JOY out of watching those families enjoying time together because of something we did .
One of my main concerns while being a Witness was that I felt the joy in life was being sucked out of my soul . Now little things just fill my days with happiness so much so I find myself smiling as I drive alone in my car . Holidays are a big part of that such as remembering a friends birthday with a card or small treat ....it makes another person feel good about themselves .That is a great thing !
You asked if there was one special moment because of a holiday that comes to mind that left me with a cherished memory ,and again I say YES several in fact .My 84 yr old Dad has now been properly remembered on his birthday and at Christmas ,and I saw the sparkle in his eye . My brother ,that I once shunned because of JW doctrine ,is now our go to Thanksgiving dinner home to attend . I am thankful for every dinner with him ,and his family because he FORGAVE me for not treating him the way family should treat family . I will never waste a moment to make a memory ...
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My friends visitation is tonight all of her JW family will be there
by troubled mind intoday i need some encouraging support ..i will be attending my friends funeral visitation tonight .. we had been jws together since childhood ,and then three yrs ago she was dfd .
we have supported each other these past few yrs with encouragement .she comes from a huge jw family, and they all plan on attending tonight.
i have known them all my life ,and they hate me for leaving the cult.
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troubled mind
I have no doubt her JW family loved her .They were visibly upset last night . If only they would learn shunning is an evil ,horrible practice .
I don't want you to think I am an emotional weakling, because that would be far from the truth .However there are still those human moments when I need to hear from those that understand . I held my head high ,because I knew I had been there for her unconditionally .
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My friends visitation is tonight all of her JW family will be there
by troubled mind intoday i need some encouraging support ..i will be attending my friends funeral visitation tonight .. we had been jws together since childhood ,and then three yrs ago she was dfd .
we have supported each other these past few yrs with encouragement .she comes from a huge jw family, and they all plan on attending tonight.
i have known them all my life ,and they hate me for leaving the cult.
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troubled mind
Thanks for all the thoughts .
Things went fairly well all the Witnesses stayed on their own side of the room . We mingled among the normal attendants . She was loved by many and her husbands family and friends filled the place . For three solid hours the line was out the door . Her husbands employer even made a huge financial gesture tonight to help with the medical bills . I think the 'worldly ones ' made a great witness to unconditional friendship and love .
It was awkward at the meal afterwards to see all my old silent 'friends' ,but I positioned myself with my back to most of them and enjoyed the company of others instead .
As to her wishes there was no religious ceremony of any kind only a visitation with the family .
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My friends visitation is tonight all of her JW family will be there
by troubled mind intoday i need some encouraging support ..i will be attending my friends funeral visitation tonight .. we had been jws together since childhood ,and then three yrs ago she was dfd .
we have supported each other these past few yrs with encouragement .she comes from a huge jw family, and they all plan on attending tonight.
i have known them all my life ,and they hate me for leaving the cult.
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Today i need some encouraging support ..I will be attending my friends funeral visitation tonight .
We had been JWs together since childhood ,and then three yrs ago she was DFd . We have supported each other these past few yrs with encouragement .She comes from a HUGE Jw family, and they all plan on attending tonight. I have known them all my life ,and they hate me for leaving the cult. They had warned her to stay away from me because they consider me an apostate .Now I have to plaster a smile on my face and play nice . That is what is making me apprehensive about the visitation .....I know the occasion needs utmost respect ,but seeing all those hateful faces turns my stomach.
I am trying hard to suppress my anger,because just two months ago I saw several of her nieces and nephews publicly shun her ,and I saw the hurt in her eyes ...Now they will be mourning her death....Do you think they will even feel one bit of emotional conflict over how they treated her ? Or will they throw the blame back on her saying she made the choice ?
I am thankful for her, because after she was Dfd she actually introduced me to a whole new group of friends that have helped so much in my healing process. Her husband was never a JW so they had a wider friend base than just JWs .
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"What exactly is his world view? from Cofty I see nothing but, anti-life, anti-love, anti-hope"
by cofty invillagegirl's question on another thread was probably supposed to be rhetorical but i want to respond to it.. many times people of faith express similar misapprehensions about those who don't share their views on eternity.. i want this to be a positive thread.
an opportunity for atheists to share what moves and inspires them.
what do you live for, what gives your life meaning and purpose?
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troubled mind
Crofty we need to be best friends !! Love ,Love,Love your post !!! pm me if you are on facebook, I am serious we should be buddies
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Anyone Celebrating Halloween this Year???
by cognac ini started yesterday.
took the kids (they were both princesses) and my nephew to 3 different events.
got tons of candy and the kids had a blast.. .
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troubled mind
Our kids are all young adults now . My husband and I do the holidays for our own joy . He is a very technical /mechanical type of person and loves the challenge of coming up with something creative . He began two yrs ago designing the computer music light show just because he saw some on youtube and thought it looked cool . He taught himself how to program and made all the electronic boards to run the shows . We just like to have fun I guess, and we enjoy watching others bring their kids by to enjoy what he has put together . Last night some people came by with a hay-rack filled with kids from a party to see the show .We came out in costumes and they all hooped and hallored ,it was just fun . For me I felt being a witness really sucked joy out of my life ....I am making up for that now .
here is a link to our facebook page that updates with videos and such of what we are doing next .